I returned to Yo Canny’s podcast Girl, Take the Lead to discuss the book Quit, The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away, by Annie Duke.
Yo and I covered a lot of powerful topics about quitting, so our conversation is available in two parts.
Rethinking Grit: Embracing the Quit with Nicole Trick Steinbach PART 1 of 2
Yo and I explored these themes
- The difference (and overlap) of Grit vs Quit
- How intersectional identities impact Quit vs Grit
- When women stay too long and a simple scale to identify if it is time for you too move on
- The metaphor of ‘Whispers, Missals, & Bricks’ of being called to change
- The transformative power of the mindset “At the Moment Manager”
Part Two:
Rethinking Grit: Embracing the Quit with Nicole Trick Steinbach PART 2 of 2
Yo and I explored these themes:
- Goals and outcomes, and how generations do it differently
- Sunday Scaries and choosing to stress less
- How I am a sorta “Quit Coach”
- What kill criteria is and a story from my client
- Yo’s amazing quote of being “In Love with my own Self-Importance”
- Choosing the battles worth having for the growth you want
- The infamous “Ant Story”
Yo’s top three takeaways are:
1. In our culture we see grit as a virtue and quit as a vice. Per Annie Duke: “Success does not lie in sticking to things. It lies in picking the right thing to stick to and quitting the rest.”
2. Any decision is made under some degree of uncertainty – we don’t have crystal balls and new information will always reveal itself.
3. External validation increases the escalation of commitment. Fear of how others will view us if we quit is usually overblown.
My key takeaway is how crucial the habit of quitting things so that you never, ever quit yourself. Ever.
The book Quit has been so instrumental to me and my coaching clients, that I also created a related Build Your Brave Career podcast episode:
The Brave Act of Quitting: Recognizing the Right Time to Walk Away from Goals
Bonus: Yo Canny was also a guest on my podcast, listen to her episode here: The Power of Personal Brands: Yo Canny’s Insights on Crafting a Compelling, Authentic Brand for Career Satisfaction E146